"Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:
at the first gate, ask your self, 'Is it true?'
at the second gate ask, 'Is it necessary?'
at the third gate ask, 'Is it kind?'"
These 3 questions, or gates if you will, -- can be asked before our words leave our mouth. We all know that the energy and impact of words, once spoken, can never really be called back.
It can take 2 - 30 seconds and, with practice, your heart and gut will tell you if you should talk … or hit the pause button.
Indeed, the Three Gates does take awareness and practice. And years of practice has taught me the value of The Three Gates. When the words we speak -- pass through these Three Gates -- we have made a wonderful and loving contribution to connecting and contributing to a relationship, with a partner, family...
I have been taking a few vacation days here and there for the last couple of weeks. I sincerely hope you have made an opportunity to fit in a vacation or are looking forward to some time off soon, before the summer is over.
If we embrace the wisdom of the famous comedian, Milton Berle, "Laughter is an instant vacation," we can change our mindset and believe that we can take a vacation any time, any day, any where!
So let's have some fun -- and laugh together, right now. Let's laugh at this crazy world. Let's laugh at ourselves.
Laughter is healing on many levels -- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Here are a few examples of the healing power of laughter -- and a few more inspirational quotes.
Laughter wakes up our mind-body. "Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors," say Norman Cousins. Laughter wakes up our eyes,...
Our focus in this newsletter is Courage -- acts of Courage to face our fears and and speak our truth -- to move forward in the midst of uncertainty, chaos, and tragedy.
“Excessive caution destroys the soul and the heart, because
living is an act of courage, and
an act of courage is always an act of love.”
This is a quote from Manuscript Found in Accra, a captivating novel by best-selling author Paulo Coelho, published in 2012. It is a story of a city under siege, where Jews, Christians, and Muslims live together peacefully and are preparing for annihilation from the armies of the Crusades. The novel is a series of parables as spoken by a Sage about love, faith, friendship, bravery, community and uncovering the sources of human fears and anxieties, written down to preserve the wisdom of the city’s soul. Yes, reality can be stranger than fiction.
Indeed, "living is an act of courage and...
In Energy Matters last month I challenged each of us to commit to 3 new activities to raise our Energy level. Our commitment was to move the needle on our Energy Score by consistently adding on 3 simple actions -- every day for 1 week. Of course, the latest research shows that it takes, on average, 66 days to create a new habit.
So, by my count, we are 32 days into installing our new habits. How is it going? This question is simply a check-in for self-awareness. Please do not judge yourself. I know you are doing the best you can in this moment. Simply take a few minutes for self-reflection. I will share my self-reflections at the end of this Blog.
First let us broaden and deepen our awareness of how to manage our Energy. I am evolving my practice of a Morning Ritual to be Energy Rituals to Start the Day.
As I have been doing work on Energy -- it just came to me --- my Morning...
March 9, 2022
Jim Loehr's quote sets the theme for this Blog:
"Energy, not time is the fundamental currency of high performance."
Dr. Loehr is a world-renowned performance psychologist, CEO and co-founder of the Human Performance Institute. The Human Performance Institute is a training company that has successfully utilized energy management technology to improve productivity and engagement levels of high performers' across the business, medicine, law enforcement and sports professions over the past 30 years.
Our theme is Energy and high performance.
Our focus is -- YOUR Energy and practical tips to dramatically improve your Energy.
In the Certified High Performance Coaching Program™, we usually start with a question for you to answer. I kindly and humbly ask you to reflect on the following self-assessment question:
On a scale of...
Are you a Leader? Do you see yourself as a Leader?
In my career in corporate America, we only sent "managers" to leadership development courses? If we truly believed everyone could be and was a leader -- we would have sent everyone to a leadership development experience! Think about it.
I have come to deeply believe we are all leaders and teachers with gifts to offer. Whether we are in school, in a career, in between jobs, a retiree, working at home raising children, a child, a rising star, CEO, a disgruntled minimum wage part-time employee, an Executive Director in a nonprofit, a skilled trades person, an entrepreneur, a writer, an artist, a dancer.... you name it -- we are all role models, teachers and leaders in our own circle of influence.
In this Blog, I would like to introduce you to Blake, the hero in Robin Sharma's novel, The Leader Who Had No Title. Blake Davis was a 29-year old complacent...
Hope is my watchword for December 2021.
As I did my research and meditations on Hope, a common theme stood out: our source of Hope lies within us and in our connectedness with others and in our connectedness with something bigger than ourselves.
This is a simple yet complex, and profound message, nicely summed up by one of my favorite meditation teachers on Insight Timer, Sarah Blondin. In her beautiful, mellifluous voice guiding us in the meditation, "Message of Hope," she says:
"I see you, I feel you, I love you, and I am here for you."
Say this out loud -- addressing yourself. Say this with the intention and Knowing that accessing Hope takes some work on your inner empire -- your thoughts and your emotions. This requires both awareness and acceptance of who we are and where we are, right now. Hope is always there inside of each one of us -- just like the sun is always shining, whether we...
I so look forward to writing on Gratitude in my Blog every November! Last year the reader response to The Heartset of Gratitude was so terrific, I thought it made sense to revisit and further explore its deep meaning.
I choose the word “heartset” with intention – because gratitude is an emotion and comes from the heart. “Heartset” changes the focus from the mind and the ego to our heart. More importantly, “heartset” also brings to the fore our passion for how we are living our life – how we are seeing our world – as we move forward on our own unique journey.
In my experience, gratitude practices typically evolve over time. That has certainly been my experience. Often, gratitude practices start with thinking about 3 things or people we are grateful for... and progresses from there to Gratitude Journals, Gratitude Letters, Gratitude Meditations, 10-day and 21-day...
October 31, 2021
I am tired. Over the past month, indeed over the past year and a half, a significant number of people have said to me, "Alison, I am sooo tired."
Are you tired, too?
This month our focus is on Energy Awareness and how we can build Awareness of our Energy -- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Are you aware of who and what is draining your Energy? Are you clear on what your options are to raise your Energy -- your vibration and vibrancy?
In Energy Awareness, I hope to encourage and excite you to take action -- to do 1-3 things -- that make sense to you, which will improve your energy. We will be discussing 3 tools that are easily available to all of us. There is a long list of options -- most of which do not require you to go to the fitness center, most of which are free. So, let's get started!
This opening quote from Deepak Chopra brings home the point that Awareness is actually the...
This month I will share a few reflections on the foundational, and sometimes overlooked, importance of Values in the best practices of Leaders.
At the outset, I want to be very clear -- this Blog is about inspiring you to reflect and dig deeper to discover your Top 3-5 Values. These could be Values that define your Leadership, the Culture of your organization, how you live your life, or all of the above.
I am neither preaching or teaching or coaching what your values "should be." My objective is to share resources in the hope they may be as inspirational to you as they have been to me in deepening my insights into the Values that are most important, personally and professionally, and why and how they prove to be important in the art of living and leading.
We all have important insights on how to define Values. Here are 2 quotes form very different perspectives. As John C. Maxwell once said, "Your core...