May 21, 2018
In the last 2 issues, we jumped into the deep end and discussed questions many of us often do not take the time to ask ourselves, such as: What is My Purpose? Who Am I? Who Are You?
In this issue, let’s take a broader perspective on the process – the key steps - in personal transformation. In “Be Happy NOW!” I share my list of the Six Steps to Happiness. A word of caution and it may sound counter-intuitive – this list is NOT a check list.
Rather, the Six Steps to Happiness reflect an experiential learning process. Paulo Coelho, world famous author of “The Alchemist,” puts it this way:
“Is it possible to avoid Pain?
Yes, but you'll never learn anything.
Is it possible to know something without
ever having experienced it?
Yes, but it will never be a part of you."
This is experiential learning – you learn by discovering – often what you already knew deep inside yourself. In the process of self-discovery and self-excavation, the lessons you learn become a part of you, the new you.
My back-story. On a crisp blue-sky Tuesday, I landed at LaGuardia at 8:47 AM on my way to an important client meeting on the 99th floor of the World Trade Towers. It was 9/11 …. and the terrorist attacks actually proved to be the beginning of my salvation.
After the 2nd plane hit, Manhattan was on lock down. My driver and I headed 2 hours north to my Aunt Mary’s. The live radio coverage brought the tragedy into the car. Looking out the rear view window of the limo, I saw the thick plumes of black smoke turn white, reaching high into the sky, as the towers collapsed.
On September 11, 2001, I had a great career as a Wall Street banker, a caring and supportive family, and an enormous secret. I was silently and profoundly unhappy.
After surviving 9/11, I realized I had been given another chance to really live.
And it took me nine years to fully understand what fulfillment and living with joy, really meant. I was looking in all the wrong places. One day in May, I met David Prudhomme, founder of Mederi Wellness who became my mind coach, guiding me to learn how to look within, rather than looking to others and the trappings of success. His proprietary process, The Best Me NOW!® was a life-changing breakthrough for me.
The gift of an enduring solution to authentic happiness is incredibly rare – priceless, really. So, when I discovered it for myself, I knew I had to share it with everyone.
The Six Steps to Happiness.
What did I learn? My top six experiential lessons are:
In Be Happy NOW!, I share some of my personal journal entries and words and feelings that came together as I experienced these lessons. David Prudhomme, my guide and mental coach, assists and allows me to share parts of our sessions. There are both instantaneous changes and evolutionary changes, and there are also regressions and the need to learn some lessons over again.
Everyone’s journey is unique. However, as David Prudhomme, coauthor, writes in his Forward: “True positive personal transformation is not only possible, but it also follows this specific path of perception, awareness, and choice.
I connected with David Prudhomme and his process, The Best Me NOW!®, to change my life, to change from where I was to where I really wanted to be.
Mind you, David never mentioned his proprietary program, and for good reason. If David had laid out the program and the process, it would have been another checklist. I would have looked through the entire list and thought, Yeah, yeah, yeah. I got it. As my guide, David simply allowed me to experience whatever I experienced, and then and only then did I get it!
Eight years ago, I was so far over on the dark side, guarded with an impenetrable suit of armor, I did not know how to spell the word forgiveness, let alone fathom unconditional love. And I came out on the other side, and if I can do it, I know you can too!
Are you stuck? Is there something missing in your life? What are you afraid of? What have you not been able to let go of? Who are you intrinsically, aside from your name, family, business, and location? Are you aware of how you talk to yourself in private? How many levels of self-awareness have you discovered? How much more do you want to or think you can discover? Do you know your life’s purpose? Are you living your best life?
I did not ask myself these questions when I was caught up achieving, running, and climbing the corporate ladder. There just came a point in my life when I finally heard all the wake-up calls that I had received and heretofore ignored. I share when and how I came to know I needed to do something different—and the something different started with looking inside of me.
What will you do? How will you shape your experiential learning curve?
Happiness is already there right now inside of you. This I Know.
Mark your calendar: If you are in the New York City area or have friends and family there, please note that on Saturday, June 2nd from 3- 3:30 PM, David and I will be personally signing copies of “Be Happy NOW!” We have been invited to attend BookExpo/BookCon at the Javits Center in NYC and will be in the AuthorCentrix booth located on Space #2042.
Till next time,
May you be happy now and always, Alison
P.S.: Here is a link from my website to preview and purchase our book, “Be Happy NOW!” https://www.alisonlanzafalls.com/p/be-happy-now.
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